When the Past Repeats Itself

This is the time to slow down and make a different choice

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Have you ever found yourself in a spookily similar situation to previously where the past seems to be repeating itself without you having consciously chosen it? I sure have. Why does this happen to so many of us and how can we approach this? Let’s examine…

Reflecting

When the past comes back around and we find ourselves in similar circumstances to what we thought we had left behind it’s time to get still and listen. Why did you attract this situation the last time? What brought it about? How did it make you feel? What choices did you make last time and what were the results of those choices? These are powerful questions to ask. When the past seems to come back around we need to take responsibility. Perhaps we acted out of fear last time or perhaps we haven’t learnt the lesson we really needed to learn. This is a time for brutal honesty and reflection in order to understand ourselves and our life path in a more powerful way. 

We repeat what we don’t repair 

- Christine Langley-Obaugh

Testing

There is truth in that quote above. The fact that we find ourselves in the same situation yet again is a sign that more healing needs to take place. Perhaps this time around we need to summon up more courage and wisdom than ever before. Forgive yourself for not having been able to respond differently in the past. You did the best you could at the time with the level of awareness and consciousness that you had. You could not have made a different choice. That was then. This is now. You are not the same person you were in the past. 

This situation is a bit like a test. Will you make the same mistakes again or will you make a new choice? Even if it means facing yourself more deeply than ever before and refusing to run away. This is a time to slow down, take stock and trust yourself more than ever. You don’t have to respond the same way as you did last time. You have grown and can zoom out to have a wider perspective. This way you can make a different choice. 

Listening

When weighing up your options ask yourself if you will need to sacrifice temporary comfort for long term gain. Sometimes when we find ourselves in similar situations it’s because we have made the easy choice in the past. The one that would ease the temporary discomfort but not solve anything long term. Hence, we find ourselves back in the same situation yet again. When making a decision this time remember to think long term. Listen to your intuition but don’t listen to your fear. It’s trying its best to keep you safe yet it could lead you astray if you’re not careful. 

Every time we repeat the same mistake, the price goes up.

- Paulo Coelho

Trusting

Remember that this is temporary. Trust that despite any setbacks, overall you are on the right track and you are further than you’ve ever been before even if you can’t see it right now. Do not forget the progress you have made and how much you’ve grown. Slow down long enough to be able to not rush any decision. Take your time and give yourself grace. Spend time in nature and with people who care about you. Be good to yourself every day as you navigate your way through. 

The past doesn’t have repeat itself again. You have the agency and opportunity to create your future from a more empowered place of wisdom, self-understanding and courage. It’s time to finally move forwards.

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