Hege you always seem to be ahead of the curve! The part about the victim mentality reminds me of a ‘victim’ I unwittingly defended years ago. I met a woman, and as I often do, I introduced her to my circle of friends and we all got along. We celebrated with her as she got a new job that she was thrilled about.
After a couple of weeks, she suddenly told us that her new boss had been acting completely inappropriately toward her at work. He was attacking her, demeaning her work, being a complete asshole. Me and my friends rushed to her defense instinctively. She ended up leaving the job soon after and we told her how much better off she would be and away from that asshole.
But over time, we would see that our new friend often played the role of ‘victim’, someone was always out to get her. At the same time, I got to know her ‘asshole’ boss at the job she left, and found out he was actually a great guy, completely mild-mannered. It seemed I had jumped to the wrong conclusion about who the real asshole was. I learned a lot of lessons about jumping to conclusions from that whole episode.
Thank you so much Mack. That’s very interesting. Some people are like that and they play the victim throughout their whole life. What we expect is often what we will experience and perceive to be true. This is why it’s so dangerous to tell a group of people that they are disempowered or oppressed because that is the reality they will then create for themselves. In many ways it’s a manipulative tactic to oppress people ironically. You make them oppress themselves by playing the victim role.✨
Hege, thank you for a truly fascinating, thought provoking and enlightening piece. One which I will continue to come back to and reread I'm sure. It has certainly made me look deeper at how I have, in the past, let the words of others affect me.
Thank you so much Dom. I appreciate your kind words! We have all certainly been guilty of this and it’s interesting to investigate the deeper underlying reasons why this is so. ✨
Hege you always seem to be ahead of the curve! The part about the victim mentality reminds me of a ‘victim’ I unwittingly defended years ago. I met a woman, and as I often do, I introduced her to my circle of friends and we all got along. We celebrated with her as she got a new job that she was thrilled about.
After a couple of weeks, she suddenly told us that her new boss had been acting completely inappropriately toward her at work. He was attacking her, demeaning her work, being a complete asshole. Me and my friends rushed to her defense instinctively. She ended up leaving the job soon after and we told her how much better off she would be and away from that asshole.
But over time, we would see that our new friend often played the role of ‘victim’, someone was always out to get her. At the same time, I got to know her ‘asshole’ boss at the job she left, and found out he was actually a great guy, completely mild-mannered. It seemed I had jumped to the wrong conclusion about who the real asshole was. I learned a lot of lessons about jumping to conclusions from that whole episode.
Thank you so much Mack. That’s very interesting. Some people are like that and they play the victim throughout their whole life. What we expect is often what we will experience and perceive to be true. This is why it’s so dangerous to tell a group of people that they are disempowered or oppressed because that is the reality they will then create for themselves. In many ways it’s a manipulative tactic to oppress people ironically. You make them oppress themselves by playing the victim role.✨
Hege, thank you for a truly fascinating, thought provoking and enlightening piece. One which I will continue to come back to and reread I'm sure. It has certainly made me look deeper at how I have, in the past, let the words of others affect me.
Thank you so much Dom. I appreciate your kind words! We have all certainly been guilty of this and it’s interesting to investigate the deeper underlying reasons why this is so. ✨