Oh Hege! This post is so timely and apt for me. It completely spoke to my current experience. I believe my own growth experience was as a result of your 2ndb&3rd points.
You also answered to the questions going on in my mind about a friend of mine, that recently resurfaced in my life. We used to be very close, then life separated us. But since she resurfaced, something appeared to be kinda off.
I can feel, more than a hint of competitiveness that never used to be there. And I have been bothered as to why. Now, outwardly this person has done much better than I, so why is she feeling threatened?
I was actually telling my husband earlier today, that I don't want to encourage that friendship. This is because I won't be reducing myself or accepting any narcissistic attitude from anyone, just so they can feel better with themselves.
So glad to hear this May! Thanks for sharing. Sometimes people pick up on our inner growth and it can feel threatening for them regardless of how much more accomplished they might be in the external. This could be happening subconsciously outside of their awareness as well. The inner always creates the outer. ✨
I agree completely that this could be happening on a subconscious level.
But you said something else that's quite liberating; that it's not my responsibility to help them "fix" it. And as a recovering fixer, I heard that loud and clear 😃
This is a very good post to reflect on with someone like myself who has finally started to grow up. We tend to embrace our growth but not slow down to enjoy it. So many good tips here... thank you for writing and sharing.
This really resonates! Outgrowing a role is a sign of growth, not failure. Embracing change opens doors to new opportunities we never imagined. Thanks for the reminder!
We do experience such situations at some time and at some junctures and if one follows what you have beautifully advised and suggested through this write-up, restoring balance, harmony and calmness become much easier like never before. Thanks a lot, Hege.
Another inspiring post that gives food for thought. I wonder if, however, 'growing' - 'outgrowing' one's environment is worth directing oneself to leave that environment right away. I know, you write that it is not necessary, but nevertheless the whole essay in a way tries to urge it. It seems to me that sometimes our growth is the result of working with this environment. We then become its debtors. Otherwise, it may be that our development is to pull this environment upwards (of course, when I am aware that I am trying to pull the environment upwards and it is pulling me down it is very frustrating - I am experiencing this myself now).
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Grzesiek. I agree that I believe removing oneself from environments or people one has outgrown is necessary but I don’t believe this always has to be immediate. Sometimes it can be done gradually which can be a smoother transition for everyone involved. It depends on the situation and will be different for everyone ✨
this is such helpful advice. i have leveled up many times and thus outgrown my circle. in the past i've always rushed to fill the void, but now i am hibernating, regrouping, and trusting that my tribe will find me, as you said.
Hege: Your post rings the bells of truth. Changing others; I never did, but when architectural companies tried to hamper my ambitions/progress. Its over: CIAO
Oh Hege! This post is so timely and apt for me. It completely spoke to my current experience. I believe my own growth experience was as a result of your 2ndb&3rd points.
You also answered to the questions going on in my mind about a friend of mine, that recently resurfaced in my life. We used to be very close, then life separated us. But since she resurfaced, something appeared to be kinda off.
I can feel, more than a hint of competitiveness that never used to be there. And I have been bothered as to why. Now, outwardly this person has done much better than I, so why is she feeling threatened?
I was actually telling my husband earlier today, that I don't want to encourage that friendship. This is because I won't be reducing myself or accepting any narcissistic attitude from anyone, just so they can feel better with themselves.
Only for me to come online now to see your post.
I think this is all the sign that I need 😃😃
Thanks for sharing 🙏
So glad to hear this May! Thanks for sharing. Sometimes people pick up on our inner growth and it can feel threatening for them regardless of how much more accomplished they might be in the external. This could be happening subconsciously outside of their awareness as well. The inner always creates the outer. ✨
I agree completely that this could be happening on a subconscious level.
But you said something else that's quite liberating; that it's not my responsibility to help them "fix" it. And as a recovering fixer, I heard that loud and clear 😃
Wonderful! So glad it helped. I have definitely put too much effort into that also in the past ✨
This is a very good post to reflect on with someone like myself who has finally started to grow up. We tend to embrace our growth but not slow down to enjoy it. So many good tips here... thank you for writing and sharing.
Thank you so much Karen! Glad you found it valuable ✨
This really resonates! Outgrowing a role is a sign of growth, not failure. Embracing change opens doors to new opportunities we never imagined. Thanks for the reminder!
Glad to hear it Sara! It’s definitely a sign of growth even if it can feel challenging ✨
We do experience such situations at some time and at some junctures and if one follows what you have beautifully advised and suggested through this write-up, restoring balance, harmony and calmness become much easier like never before. Thanks a lot, Hege.
Thanks Vineet. It’s certainly a consequence of deep inner work and rapid spiritual growth ✨
Absolutely, Hege. Incredible write-up. ✨✨✨
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Interesting article, thanks for sharing, Hege!
Thank you for reading and commenting! ✨
Another inspiring post that gives food for thought. I wonder if, however, 'growing' - 'outgrowing' one's environment is worth directing oneself to leave that environment right away. I know, you write that it is not necessary, but nevertheless the whole essay in a way tries to urge it. It seems to me that sometimes our growth is the result of working with this environment. We then become its debtors. Otherwise, it may be that our development is to pull this environment upwards (of course, when I am aware that I am trying to pull the environment upwards and it is pulling me down it is very frustrating - I am experiencing this myself now).
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Grzesiek. I agree that I believe removing oneself from environments or people one has outgrown is necessary but I don’t believe this always has to be immediate. Sometimes it can be done gradually which can be a smoother transition for everyone involved. It depends on the situation and will be different for everyone ✨
this is such helpful advice. i have leveled up many times and thus outgrown my circle. in the past i've always rushed to fill the void, but now i am hibernating, regrouping, and trusting that my tribe will find me, as you said.
Thank you Elizabeth. That’s exactly what I’m doing as well ✨
Great post Hege! Very fitting for me, keep up the great work
Thank you so much Stefano!✨
Hege: Your post rings the bells of truth. Changing others; I never did, but when architectural companies tried to hamper my ambitions/progress. Its over: CIAO
Glad to hear it Karl ✨
Thank you for reading. So glad it supported you ✨
Oh it’s such an uncomfortable place! I’m right there with you